Welcome Back My Friends, to the Show That Never Ends
A Few Things You Should Know About Me
Want to add me as a friend? I have no problem with this and find it flattering. However, I have found that people often add me thinking I'm one person and finding out I'm another.
I have some strong opinions about things. I also can rant like an idiot if I'm wound up. I'm completely anti-Bush, I'm prochoice, I'm a Christian who can't stand fundamentalists who make Jesus look like a narrowminded biggot like they are.
If you add me to your friends list, I would really appreciate it if You would read this entry first It explains my "red, white, and blue" lists for friends. After that, if you still want to add me, pick what color you want to deal with, it's totally up to you. If you don't pick, I'll just assume you want to be white and that's what I'll put you on.
If you add me as a friend, I'll most likely add you, providing your journal isn't a happy little land of quizzes and memes with HUGE FREAKIN' GRAPHICS I just don't like that stuff. Or, if you constantly write huge, long, rambling posts without remember the LJ cut. I don't like a Friends page that takes several hours to load on high speed.
I do ask a favor of anyone who wants to be on my friendslist, especially those who decide they want to be on the "red" list. If you have a problem with me, with something I say, before you flounce off with a curt little, "Bye," you give me a chance to redeem myself. I don't care if you email me, or leave a comment that says, "I don't know if you realized what you said there, but you really offended me and this is why."
I believe strongly, that a journal is a place where people should be themselves. However, I rarely want to piss off people who call me friends and I've found that 99% of the time, if I have, it's not over who I am, it's over something that was misunderstood. If you're the type of person who thinks, One misunderstanding, one thing this person says that I don't like, and I am OUT of here! I would really appreciate it if you either didn't friend me, or stuck to the white list. I'm tired of warning people that I'm not perfect, having people go, "That's okay, I understand, I'll still like you!" then, the moment I say anything they don't like, suddenly, I'm gone.
If you want to say I'm a big old baby about it, that's fine, I don't care. I have almost never put anyone on my flist without them putting me on it first, so forgive me if I'm a bit sensitive about this. I sometimes feel like I'm some amusing robot, here only to entertain, not allowed to have feelings.
If you made it through the above without wanting to bash me in the teeth? We'll probably get along fine.
On Rants When I rant, I rant. Usually it's because I am so upset with something (Mostly likely something that has nothing to do with LJ or my Flist, trust me, I'm the type that rarely rants to the direct source of my unhappiness, because I know ranting is a big mistake. I will rant to someone/something else, then, when I've cooled down, think about it, and contact.) When I rant, I am very upset. I usually mark my rants quite clearly and I do use the LJ-cut. If you are reading my rants, and wish to respond, please tread lightly. I am not in a very rational frame of mind right at that moment and I'm probably looking for someone or something to vent my spleen upon. If you make yourself a target, guess who it's going to be? Chances are, once I've calmed down, I will realize I've been a huge d*ck and I'll apologize and beg your pardon, but until I've calmed down, if you disagree, it might be best to keep it to yourself.
On Picking Fights You do not pick fights with other commenters in my journal. You just don't do it. It's my playground and the only bully allowed is me. If I see you are picking on someone in my journal, I will erase your comments. If you persist in being a bully to members of my journal, I will ban your ass. Disagreements are fine, but you will treat other commenters in my journal with all the respect you want yourself treated and then some.
By the same token You treat me with respect in my journal. You are welcome to disagree with me, that's fine, but do it with respect. I've spent too much of my life being tred on, and then being expected to be grateful to those who tred on me, and I'm not taking it anymore. If you find yourself wanting to feel better by stepping on me, do both of us a favor and walk away.