Especially when they tearfully tell you about their abortion and how them telling you they had one should make you see that they're right and you're wrong. And I say "people" and not women, because I've met a few who were guys who's girlfriends had abortions.
Now, before anyone jumps, I do not mean someone who had an abortion at one point, but would never have another one. That's fine by me, as long as they keep their morality confined to themselves. What gives me the urge to perform a retroactive abortion on these people is when they not only would never have an abortion themselves, but they've climbed up so high on the holy ladder, that they don't want anyone else to be able to have one too.
Isn't that freaking convienient of them? When they had an unwanted pregnancy, the option was open for them and they did it. Now that they are in a place where a pregnancy is not a life ruining thing, suddenly it's "Oh dear, we can't murder TEH CHILDREN, can we?" They boohoo for the mistake they made as they fight to make sure their children and grandchildren and everyone elses will never have that option, but they sure had it themselves.
I do understand that the world has revolved in ways and thinking that makes abortion less of an option and that's fine. Children having babies is so tres cool, that it's almost become a fashion accessory. And if you don't feel like raising your kid yourself, dump the little darling on Mom and Dad and go have your fun. The baby will be there when you get back. I understand that someone who had an abortion might try to make sure his/her children will never have to have an abortion for the same reasons they did. "I had to do this because if my parents found out I got pregnant they would have killed me, but I will make sure my children understand that nothing is so bad that we all can't work it out." But to flat out decide that now no one has a choice? Oh please. I'm sure their reasons were very valid to them when they were younger, what makes them decide that now no reasons are valid.
Celebrities and political asshats are the most notorious for this. I used to be really friendly with someone who worked at a BC clinic that also did abortions in New York. One of those really nice places that reminded most people of a hotel. A very swank hotel that just happened to also perform abortions. And yeah, maybe she shouldn't have been so loudmouthed, but she told me some pretty big names that went trapsing through the place to take care of little problems. I think she just felt she had to tell someone and while I'm an asshole, I'm pretty darned good at keeping my mouth shut. Musicians, apparently are the worst for knocking up anything that moves, or getting knocked up themselves. Apparently they're the most fertal buggers on the planet, or they're too stupid to figure out how to roooooollll the bugger down. There were managers, agents, and record companies that had expense accounts with the place. Someone would get pregnant and be shipped off for a couple days. "Dont' worry about a thing, dearie... we'll take care of that problem right away. No, no, it won't cost you a cent. In fact, we'll give you some money when all is said and done, if you promise never to mention which boy in the band knocked your boots and gave you that little problem." They'd send out bills to these companies as if it were like a chargecard.
Some of these names she's told me are now on the "Pro life" wagon and you'd think they'd never made a mistake in their lives. Or, they point to their own abortion as justification for why no one else should have one.
I would understand if it was a situation where someone was really high pressured into having one, and then, right after it happened, being miserably depressed about it, and realizing they made a horrible mistake. But it always seems that they have 5-20 years to get to a much better place and then they decide that now, since they are bigshots they can tell us what's right for the rest of us now.. you know, the unwashed, uninformed, ignorant, noncelebrity huddled masses who desperately need to turn to celebrities for advice on how to live their lives.
I understand that people evolve and people change. You might at one point think that having kids would be the worst thing you can do, then suddenly your life changes and now you think kids are A-freaking Oh-Kay. But, when you start saying, "Now that I've changed the whole damned world had better change too," that's when I want to kick your face.
I've said before and I'll say it again, if you want to make abortion a non-option, don't pass laws, be part of the solution that makes it so no one had to consider the option. But don't get all high and mighty and decide that your past is forgiveable, but no one else is allowed to to the same thing. In fact, I hold to that even if you never had an abortion. Mind your side of the fence and your own life, don't freaking tell me or anyone else how to live theirs.