Darqstar (darqstar) wrote,
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Parents...


I swear, I am not writing this to be bitchy. I'm writing this to try to get an understanding as to why it happens, and maybe lower my blood presure when I'm bending over for the 10th time, picking up a ton an a half of garbage off the floor, thrown by kids who are really old enough to know better, or are probably too young to go out to eat.

I have been griping about this for years and it never seems to get better. Parents bring their kids out to eat and immedietly when they leave, their table looks like it was turned over to people raised by a pack of wolves. (No insult intended to wolves) I'm talking pasta squished into the floors, food stuffed in between the crevises of the seat cushions, so I need a crowbar to pull it out. Milk spilled all over the floor, under the table so that if we have a warm day a few days later, the entire dining room reeks of sour milk. It's just... nasty. Sugar packets with spit all over them, because parents let their kids play with them, then put back into the sugar holder so that if I don't catch it, some poor person grabs it and has this wet package, or package that once was wet and now is dry and is one solid block.

If this was an occational thing, I would say, "Wow, these people are pigs!" figure they were in the minority, imagine their houses must be a total sty, and live with it. But, if anything, it's getting worse, not better. I know the average parent is not going to let their kids wallow in filth, or let their kids make that much of a mess, so why is it so different when you go out to eat?

I'm not asking to point fingers, I'm asking because I want to know the logic behind it. Because, the way my brain works, the only reasons I can come up with are really rather... demeaning.

1: You figure your waitperson is your personal slave, and your children should feel that way too, so why not let them create holy hell, because it's time they knew their place anyway. Waitstaff make damned good money (yeah, I'm not writing that with a straight face either...) so why shouldn't they work? It's YOUR big night out, so who cares that we have to quarenteen your table for 20 minutes after your gone to make sure it's clean enough to re-seat the next person. It's simply not your problem. You are out of your kitchen.

2: You just don't give a flying damn about it. You don't even see it, even if you're looking right at it.

You see, I know most people would never let a kid over the age of one throw pasta around. I know most people would never dream of letting their kid wedge napkins in the crevises of their seat at home, and if they caught them doing it, they would scold the child and make them remove it. But it's totally different when people go out to eat. And really, would you let your child drool into your sugar bowl and then expect the rest of the family to use that sugar? Would you want to go out and put sugar in your coffee that had been in the mouths of a stranger's baby? Would you want your kids to use that sugar?

Look, all I want to know is the logic behind it. Is there something I'm missing? Because if there is, maybe if I understand the reasoning behind it, maybe if I know why people do it, I'll be a little less tight lipped when I see someone coming in with kids, knowing once they leave, my table will be a war zone that will take me 5 times longer to clean than a table inhabited by strictly adults.

If you are a parent who realizes that you do this, or you know someone who is, please direct them this way. I don't care if you answer using the anon feature. It's turned on in my journal. I just want to know the brainset behind it. I figure if I know the brainset, I might have the sympathy.

And maybe, you can even tell me why the parents of children can be more messy than the children themselves? Cause I see that all the time too. It's like parents (and I'm sorry if this sounds like I'm sexist, but it's just honest observation) especially mothers are in a dire competition to see who can make a bigger mess of the table, them or their kids.

And if you're one of those people who does their best to make sure their child and the rest of their party doesn't leave the table looking like a sty? God bless you. If you ask for those extra napkins, and pile them on your table when you leave, so all I have to do is pick them up, rather than hide them everywhere, you are wonderful. I just wish there were more people like you.

No, I am not counting accidents. Every person big or small has a clutz moment and knocks over a soda, or dumps something. That's called being human and usually my response is, "Oh, if I had a nickle for every time I dropped something, I wouldn't be waiting tables, don't worry about it." I'm talking about deliberately making a huge mess. I'm talking about watching your kids throwing food on the floor rather than eat it. I'm talking about watching the kid drop french fries in my isle, where you know people will step on them and grind them into the floor, and not telling your child, "Please pick that up."

I just want to know what the logic is. I won't bitch you out in my responses. I just want an understanding. Because trust me, what you allow your children to do when they are children, they will do as adults. And I have noticed a big rise in adult slobs as well. I've been waitressing on and off for over 20 years of my life. The messy babies I saw when I first started are now in their 20's, and some of them have no clue how to be somewhat neat in a restaurant.

So, please, tell me. I'll be fair. I just want to know the logic, I want to know why it's happening. Then, maybe, I can find a way to justify it and not feel like the real reason it's happening is because in your mind, I'm nothing but a peice of scum, barely worthy of existence in the human race, but living only to serve whatever shit you throw my way. And that's just... wrong.
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